When the People Who Were Supposed to Love You… Didn’t

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Post 38: “When the People Who Were Supposed to Love You… Didn’t”

There’s a certain kind of ache that’s hard to put into words.
It’s the ache of love that should have been there — but wasn’t.

Maybe it was a parent who couldn’t give what you needed.
Maybe it was a family that left you feeling like the outsider.
Maybe it was a relationship that promised love but withheld it in the moments you needed it most.

Whatever the story — the wound is real.
Because being unloved where you should have been cherished leaves marks.

And sometimes those marks whisper things that aren’t true:
“You weren’t worth loving.”
“Something must be wrong with you.”
“If even they didn’t love you, who will?”

But let me say this clearly: those whispers are lies.

Their inability to love you the way you needed does not mean you were unworthy of love.
Their silence does not define your voice.
Their rejection does not erase your value.

The absence of love in your past doesn’t mean you’re unlovable — it means someone else was unable to give what you deserved.

And you deserved love.
You still do.

You were always worthy of gentleness.
Of care.
Of someone listening and choosing you without hesitation.

And while I can’t rewrite the past, I want you to know this:
Love hasn’t abandoned you.
Even if people failed you, love itself is still reaching for you.
Through new friendships.
Through chosen family.
Through moments of kindness that remind you what’s true.
Through the steady, unshakable love of God who saw every wound and still calls you precious.

So if you’ve ever felt the ache of being unloved where it mattered most, please hear me:
You are not broken.
You are not too much.
You are not unworthy.

You are worthy.
You are loved.
And the love you should have always known?
It’s still finding its way to you. 💛